You’re chatting with your girlfriends about the qualities you need in the perfect man. All of the standards come up: intelligent, funny, attractive, caring, etc. But in the back of your mind you know there’s something else you need: money. Love may make the world go ’round, but money certainly makes the ride more fun. It is possible to have one with the other, so here are some tips on finding that great guy with all the benefits.
Your friends may not be bringing in the big bucks yet, but consider where they are working. What about your good friend from high school who just started articling at that law firm? Or your sister-in-law who’s an administrative assistant at one of the big banks? Next time they’re going out for drinks with their co-workers, ask if you can tag along. And when you’re chatting it up with the office hottie, check for a ring on his left hand while asking him what exactly he does at Johnson & Reed.
Put yourself in his place
You can try to use your sixth sense at the local pub to figure out whose wallet is stacked and whose isn’t, or you could just go somewhere where the odds are more in your favour. Follow the suits for after-work drinks in the financial district or try out that new uptown oyster bar and coyly ask for a lesson from the one in cufflinks on the barstool beside you.
Take up some new hobbies
More than just business deals can be made on the golf course. Never picked up a club in your life? Sign up for some group lessons or hit some balls at the driving range. The same can be said for skiing, catching a Broadway show, visiting an art gallery or trying out wine tasting.
Look the part
You don’t need to drop your entire paycheck on the latest Coach purse and Christian Siriano dress, but you do need to opt for a sophisticated sexy look. A wealthy man wants classy lady he can take to his company cocktail parties and his parent’s summer home without being embarrassed or having her gawk at the antiques. Looking beautiful (heck, he’s still a guy) and put together will let him know you can handle the added attention that can come with having money.
There’s a difference between being poor and being broke, and similarly a difference between being rich and being wealthy. Rich and poor are parts of their personality, and broke and wealthy is the material amount (or lack thereof) of money/assets they own.
A rich man will eventually become wealthy, and a poor man will eventually become broke, regardless of how much they actually have at the moment. So I guess he meant that a woman (and men) should date the “money personality” and “attitude” rather than how much they actually have.
A woman who actively dates “rich” men is smart; a woman who actively dates “wealthy” men are probably too fickle to handle a stable relationship.
There’s a difference between being poor and being broke, and similarly a difference between being rich and being wealthy. Rich and poor are parts of their personality, and broke and wealthy is the material amount (or lack thereof) of money/assets they own.
A rich man will eventually become wealthy, and a poor man will eventually become broke, regardless of how much they actually have at the moment. So I guess he meant that a woman (and men) should date the “money personality” and “attitude” rather than how much they actually have.
A woman who actively dates “rich” men is smart; a woman who actively dates “wealthy” men are probably too fickle to handle a stable relationship.
I am tried of dating guys who have little to no money. I can be making the same as them and they are older and have nothing to show for it. Meanwhile, I have saved and spent my money wisely. I end up having better everything than them…including manners, personality, how to be respectful and carry one’s self in public.
I am sick of men who can not take care of themselves and then look at me like I am some kind of atm machine. Uck!
So I decided to only date men with alot of money. Then for sure those men don’t like me just b/c they need a hand out or are trying to get a free ride. I also don’t expect them to buy me gifts or give me anything. Now sure its nice to spoiled sometimes b/c I have never had it done in the past. There are times I feel bad b/c I don’t want to accept something that I know is super expensive and I don’t know if I should refuse it (and then offend him). So I usually ask if they are sure and I am honest and tell them I do feel bad about taking it.
I do not make as much as guys I date, but thats okay b/c if you are ugly, dorky, rude, disrespectful or cocky…you are out of the picture. I do work and can take care of myself well, so I don’t need a rich man to survive. I still have standards.
I want the whole picture, and I would love nothing more than to be with someone where I could bring something to their business and make it better for them.
Even if the guy and I are are super in love, I would not be so quick to get married. I want to make sure that there is a real connection and that I will want to be with him forever. Marriage is not a life or death thing for me.
Let’s just say we did get divorced & no pre-nup….no problem. I would just take my clothes, jewelry, car, etc. I am not going to fight the guy for his furniture, house, etc. That is just in bad taste and very unattractive behavior as lady.
Try to take him to the cleaners, for what? If he own a 2 million dollar home, what I am going to do with it? I didn’t pay for it, so I shouldn’t get it. I can not afford the taxes or upkeep on it anyway, even if he offered me it. So I would still nicely say no thank you.
Now, if you think I am a gold-digger go right ahead. I know what I want and what I do not. When I meet the man that has everything that everywoman wants (good looking, funny, sweet, thoughtful, respectful, caring, strong, smart, loving, honest, trustworthy and a lot of money), I will be happy that I got an awesome man. I can love him every moment of everyday and think to myself “wow what a wonderful person. I am so happy, and proud of him, and everything he does and stands for”.
I would love to do everything for him, that I can, so he knows through actions how much I care/love him and not just words.
I am tried of dating guys who have little to no money. I can be making the same as them and they are older and have nothing to show for it. Meanwhile, I have saved and spent my money wisely. I end up having better everything than them…including manners, personality, how to be respectful and carry one’s self in public.
I am sick of men who can not take care of themselves and then look at me like I am some kind of atm machine. Uck!
So I decided to only date men with alot of money. Then for sure those men don’t like me just b/c they need a hand out or are trying to get a free ride. I also don’t expect them to buy me gifts or give me anything. Now sure its nice to spoiled sometimes b/c I have never had it done in the past. There are times I feel bad b/c I don’t want to accept something that I know is super expensive and I don’t know if I should refuse it (and then offend him). So I usually ask if they are sure and I am honest and tell them I do feel bad about taking it.
I do not make as much as guys I date, but thats okay b/c if you are ugly, dorky, rude, disrespectful or cocky…you are out of the picture. I do work and can take care of myself well, so I don’t need a rich man to survive. I still have standards.
I want the whole picture, and I would love nothing more than to be with someone where I could bring something to their business and make it better for them.
Even if the guy and I are are super in love, I would not be so quick to get married. I want to make sure that there is a real connection and that I will want to be with him forever. Marriage is not a life or death thing for me.
Let’s just say we did get divorced & no pre-nup….no problem. I would just take my clothes, jewelry, car, etc. I am not going to fight the guy for his furniture, house, etc. That is just in bad taste and very unattractive behavior as lady.
Try to take him to the cleaners, for what? If he own a 2 million dollar home, what I am going to do with it? I didn’t pay for it, so I shouldn’t get it. I can not afford the taxes or upkeep on it anyway, even if he offered me it. So I would still nicely say no thank you.
Now, if you think I am a gold-digger go right ahead. I know what I want and what I do not. When I meet the man that has everything that everywoman wants (good looking, funny, sweet, thoughtful, respectful, caring, strong, smart, loving, honest, trustworthy and a lot of money), I will be happy that I got an awesome man. I can love him every moment of everyday and think to myself “wow what a wonderful person. I am so happy, and proud of him, and everything he does and stands for”.
I would love to do everything for him, that I can, so he knows through actions how much I care/love him and not just words.
The problem lies in the fact when one person lies to the other about love of the person when in fact it is the monetary benefits is what keeps them with that individual.
Personally I’m old fashioned and a romantic. I must want to be with the person because I enjoy their company and we have the same core values and outlook in life. Money comes and goes, looks fade unless you want to have surgery to look like a mannequin but the art of good conversation and the pleasure to be in the company of someone you respect and love is priceless and irreplaceable. Someone, a person can share everything with. The trust and faith that you can express yourself without the fear of reprisal or being walked out, or cheated on. Someone who comes first in your life and you in theirs above all else in the world. Someone you want to spend most your free time with because they are your best friend but not have have to give up spending time alone or with your friends every once in awhile. Someone you want to wake up to every morning and the last person you see every night before you go to sleep. Someone who respects you and accepts you as you are. People wonder why they can’t find the forever love…look past the money and the looks and see the person exactly for who they are and if you still enjoy their company give it a chance, you just might find what you are looking for. Is this kind of love out there? Yes it is, but you just have to look beyond the external “assets” and find that diamond in the rough. An outstanding human being with solid core values is hitting the greatest lottery of all. You want money, work for it, work together to get the things you want but remember money doesn’t make one happier. Sometimes more miserable because you get to the point where you have everything you want and more and then there is nothing left to achieve. If you have the money then you always wonder if someone likes you for who you are or if it’s for what you have. Money is an essential to help you get the necessities you need in life and it is not life itself. To live and breathe money leaves you feeling pretty bankrupt in your spiritual, mental and emotional lives. When I’m on my death bed, I want to be able to say I loved the greatest and was loved thoroughly and ultimately, then I will know I have lived themost fulfilling life ever possible to a human being.
I suggest if you truly do have a 5 million dollar home, to take a little bit of your earnings and get some spelling lessons.
There are numerous errors in your entry which lead the rest of us to believe that although you may own objects, you might need an update in your outlook on life, and more importantly your education.
Any guy with money and no brains deserves women like that. There just as stupid.
Now on the other hand, a guy with money and brains will have his ducks in a row.
A lawyer with the proper paper work in order. Meaning, she signs a pre-nup. Just because he has money is not an invitation for her sit on her rump and do nothing.
If she was not there to help build the fortune, then what gives her the right to get a free ride. Too many of these fellas fall into this trap. In the event I was to take on another girl. There would be a pre-nup signed or no deal. She would be out there working to pay half the bills. I worked my ass off to pay off my $5 million home. There is no jggy, jiggy worth me losing my fortune. She decides to leave and take everything I built up. No chance! She leaves with what she walked in with, even if she had nothing. The girl can get a job, pay half the bills, and come on holidays when she got a break from her job.
By the way, this was all accomplished after my ex-wife kicked me out after 17.5 years.
Yea I was married once, never again. I worked a regular job when we got married. A couple after being married, I decided to work for myself in my own business. Two years after starting, I had an income of $16,000.00 a month. It was great to realize I would be able to re-tire at 40 years of age. Boy, was I mistakin. She had different plans. At 40 I was broke. So I quit working. I left bills and outragious credit card debt in her hands to pay. She had the love of money, but she didn’t realize her piddly paying job was barely enough to cover the mortgage. I had had enough, I was tired after working 13 years with barely no sleep. Needless to say, the marriage when down quickly.
She didn’t want to help building the business, but she sure didn’t have a problem spending the cash.
The end result being, I claimed bankruptcy and she was broke. It was pretty cool. Reason being, I knew exactly what I was doing. If I was going down, so was she.
But there was one thing. I planned it all very strategically so that when the marriage was over and done that I would be very wealthy and she would be in the very same position as when we met. The same dead end job, at the same position. It worked out beautifully.
So, my point being. The law of attraction has put my ex-wife exactly where she belongs. I knew the marriage would not last 2 years after it began.
To the person in the previous post. (Peter)
You work your 9-5 job and don’t worry about these gold diggers. Lay down the law straight away. If she has kids-give it some time and feel out the situation. Check her body language, how she talks in different situations. What I’m saying is this. Make out a check list on what you expect in and from her. Just like you would before you go on vacation. Check them all off and if she doesn’t get all the ticks, really look at the ones in which aren’t ticked. Because one day you might get ticked.
The city in which I live has an 85% divorce rate, highest domestic violence in the country, and the highest violence against against women. The sad thing is, I am unable to find a good (I mean good) reason why? But there is a feeble, and that being, people thinking the way as this article is written.
There might be some wealthy people in our world today, but most are very poor when it comes the beast which resides inside of them. People deserve what ever the outcome comes their way.
Peter, in the event you are looking for a good woman. Don’t settle for anything less than what you want.
Money is important – but, you should sell your soul for it. It is more valuable and enduring if you look for people based on your core values.
What if your rich guy dies, or loses all his wealth…you’d just leave him? How can you possibly live your life and play with your heart and your integrity so frivolously.
Character, respect, consideration, thoughtfulness, loyalty, unselfishness are the first qualities to look for. Once these are identified – then, check out his financial stability.
But, that shouldn’t come first. However, let’s not assume that all rich men are shallow and souless and just want trophy wives. However, in our society we do put a lot of emphasis on who deserves what based on a. looks and b. money = so called power.
That is why 50% of all marriages (both for the rich and the poor) end in divorce. Because the soul to soul connection is overlooked and people don’t take time to really see that they choose money and looks because of what it makes THEM appear to be, it makes THEM feel acceptable to society.
You have to gauge being with someone how they make you feel as an entire person – on the inside, since, it is what is inside of us that comprises our lives.
No wonder we 9 to 5ers have trouble getting a date. You’re constantly training woman on how to freeload!
The problem lies in the fact when one person lies to the other about love of the person when in fact it is the monetary benefits is what keeps them with that individual.
Personally I’m old fashioned and a romantic. I must want to be with the person because I enjoy their company and we have the same core values and outlook in life. Money comes and goes, looks fade unless you want to have surgery to look like a mannequin but the art of good conversation and the pleasure to be in the company of someone you respect and love is priceless and irreplaceable. Someone, a person can share everything with. The trust and faith that you can express yourself without the fear of reprisal or being walked out, or cheated on. Someone who comes first in your life and you in theirs above all else in the world. Someone you want to spend most your free time with because they are your best friend but not have have to give up spending time alone or with your friends every once in awhile. Someone you want to wake up to every morning and the last person you see every night before you go to sleep. Someone who respects you and accepts you as you are. People wonder why they can’t find the forever love…look past the money and the looks and see the person exactly for who they are and if you still enjoy their company give it a chance, you just might find what you are looking for. Is this kind of love out there? Yes it is, but you just have to look beyond the external “assets” and find that diamond in the rough. An outstanding human being with solid core values is hitting the greatest lottery of all. You want money, work for it, work together to get the things you want but remember money doesn’t make one happier. Sometimes more miserable because you get to the point where you have everything you want and more and then there is nothing left to achieve. If you have the money then you always wonder if someone likes you for who you are or if it’s for what you have. Money is an essential to help you get the necessities you need in life and it is not life itself. To live and breathe money leaves you feeling pretty bankrupt in your spiritual, mental and emotional lives. When I’m on my death bed, I want to be able to say I loved the greatest and was loved thoroughly and ultimately, then I will know I have lived themost fulfilling life ever possible to a human being.
I suggest if you truly do have a 5 million dollar home, to take a little bit of your earnings and get some spelling lessons.
There are numerous errors in your entry which lead the rest of us to believe that although you may own objects, you might need an update in your outlook on life, and more importantly your education.
Any guy with money and no brains deserves women like that. There just as stupid.
Now on the other hand, a guy with money and brains will have his ducks in a row.
A lawyer with the proper paper work in order. Meaning, she signs a pre-nup. Just because he has money is not an invitation for her sit on her rump and do nothing.
If she was not there to help build the fortune, then what gives her the right to get a free ride. Too many of these fellas fall into this trap. In the event I was to take on another girl. There would be a pre-nup signed or no deal. She would be out there working to pay half the bills. I worked my ass off to pay off my $5 million home. There is no jggy, jiggy worth me losing my fortune. She decides to leave and take everything I built up. No chance! She leaves with what she walked in with, even if she had nothing. The girl can get a job, pay half the bills, and come on holidays when she got a break from her job.
By the way, this was all accomplished after my ex-wife kicked me out after 17.5 years.
Yea I was married once, never again. I worked a regular job when we got married. A couple after being married, I decided to work for myself in my own business. Two years after starting, I had an income of $16,000.00 a month. It was great to realize I would be able to re-tire at 40 years of age. Boy, was I mistakin. She had different plans. At 40 I was broke. So I quit working. I left bills and outragious credit card debt in her hands to pay. She had the love of money, but she didn’t realize her piddly paying job was barely enough to cover the mortgage. I had had enough, I was tired after working 13 years with barely no sleep. Needless to say, the marriage when down quickly.
She didn’t want to help building the business, but she sure didn’t have a problem spending the cash.
The end result being, I claimed bankruptcy and she was broke. It was pretty cool. Reason being, I knew exactly what I was doing. If I was going down, so was she.
But there was one thing. I planned it all very strategically so that when the marriage was over and done that I would be very wealthy and she would be in the very same position as when we met. The same dead end job, at the same position. It worked out beautifully.
So, my point being. The law of attraction has put my ex-wife exactly where she belongs. I knew the marriage would not last 2 years after it began.
To the person in the previous post. (Peter)
You work your 9-5 job and don’t worry about these gold diggers. Lay down the law straight away. If she has kids-give it some time and feel out the situation. Check her body language, how she talks in different situations. What I’m saying is this. Make out a check list on what you expect in and from her. Just like you would before you go on vacation. Check them all off and if she doesn’t get all the ticks, really look at the ones in which aren’t ticked. Because one day you might get ticked.
The city in which I live has an 85% divorce rate, highest domestic violence in the country, and the highest violence against against women. The sad thing is, I am unable to find a good (I mean good) reason why? But there is a feeble, and that being, people thinking the way as this article is written.
There might be some wealthy people in our world today, but most are very poor when it comes the beast which resides inside of them. People deserve what ever the outcome comes their way.
Peter, in the event you are looking for a good woman. Don’t settle for anything less than what you want.
Money is important – but, you should sell your soul for it. It is more valuable and enduring if you look for people based on your core values.
What if your rich guy dies, or loses all his wealth…you’d just leave him? How can you possibly live your life and play with your heart and your integrity so frivolously.
Character, respect, consideration, thoughtfulness, loyalty, unselfishness are the first qualities to look for. Once these are identified – then, check out his financial stability.
But, that shouldn’t come first. However, let’s not assume that all rich men are shallow and souless and just want trophy wives. However, in our society we do put a lot of emphasis on who deserves what based on a. looks and b. money = so called power.
That is why 50% of all marriages (both for the rich and the poor) end in divorce. Because the soul to soul connection is overlooked and people don’t take time to really see that they choose money and looks because of what it makes THEM appear to be, it makes THEM feel acceptable to society.
You have to gauge being with someone how they make you feel as an entire person – on the inside, since, it is what is inside of us that comprises our lives.
No wonder we 9 to 5ers have trouble getting a date. You’re constantly training woman on how to freeload!